Being single in the big world
Even though I can say I don’t have to explain my personal life “BUT” being a public personality I feel its my duty at least to let my fans know what I think about “Love” . Love I feel is what makes everything in this world go round, mind you it could be “LOVE” or merely the “ABSENCE OF LOVE” which can change a persons life forever .Being single for most women/girls is a whole lot of moping around n complaining but for me it is living a perfect n complete life till the right person comes along.
I broke up almost 6 years ago from a long n steady relationship Little did I know in last 6 years of trying to get over him n dealing with the immense excruciating pain of loosing the (at that time) most important thing in my life would I find the greatest gift of all … LOVING MYSELF FIRST ! I found love in my work , I found love in my human rights activity,I found a new found closeness to my parents and I found friends whose unconditional love made me a human being I am very proud of . I now sit and think ,had I succumbed to what I interpreted as LOVE I would have never discovered myself and most important .. What it is that I really want in my life !When we love we forget that love is about not only Loving another but also about being loved back equally .
Love is eternal,Love is meant to make us grow,Love is meant to make us safe,Love is meant to heal,Love is meant to inspire us, with it’s power, renew us and to bring us closer to God Still most of us want to “get into” or “Hang onto” what we think is LOVE or what gives us immediate comfort because we are scared of facing ourselves alone ..How can someone else enjoy our company if we ourselves cant spend an evening with us alone ?
Taking a break and being single is a great way to begin the self healing process . It takes time but I realized that we have to take charge of our lives and most of all get over of being in the constant feeling of being UNLOVED .
Sadly many people enter lifelong relationships where love fades away n its nothing but a companionship of conveniences without growing in its inner dimensions.That is something I didn’t want .
I want Love that is real, love that is emotionally quenching , love that is .. well ..LOVE and “HOW” am I ever going to get all that If I am a walking psychologically disturbed emotional time bomb .
It is unfair to dump our insecurities on an unsuspecting person n expect them to quench our Love led demands . Ultimately out of unlimited expectations relationships fall apart and we end up thinking Love is a loosing game,Love is compromise,Love is struggle,Love hurts (The worst one i have heard)If that’s what you are experiencing … well…. I am sorry to say you are experiencing anything but Love. Its an illusion so WAKE UP ….Start Loving yourself first … that’s what I have been doing ..its difficult but its a great feeling . By loving yourself I mean having a healthy respect for what you are n what you have . Only when you can fill yourself up can you give anyone anything . Love is no respecter of reasons it IS going to happen sooner or later , so be positive and spend that time in getting to know yourself and loving your self .
God is kind until you meet your soul mate he will keep sending you love in form of friends, family, pets, books, work… in the process don’t forget when you find your soul mate that Love is about loving everyone and everything equally … You will always have a contended relationship.
As my my favourite writer Paulo Coehlo said; “Close the door , change the record ,clean he house …stop being who you were..! Become who you are .”